-
This is Between Business Cards
I’m navigating life—one foot stuck in the mud, the other trying to pull free. Like you, I’ve held a lot of roles: sibling, employee, spouse, healthy person and one facing illness. Some of those titles even made it onto my business cards. But life has a way of editing our identities—whether we’re ready or not. Over time, my roles changed. I was divorced. My parents passed. I experienced painful estrangements and major illness. And through it all—showing up, struggling, transitioning—I found unexpected lifelines: family, friends, books, projects and small, quiet gestures that kept me afloat. This isn’t a self-help blog. It’s more of a help-yourself-while-I-stumble-through blog. It’s about the collective…
-
Bound to Look Good
My daughter Kristen and I recently went shopping for undergarments. As we walked into Macy’s, I asked the young woman at the perfume counter, “Where do you keep your intimates?” She froze and her eyes widened. “Intimates?” I asked again, thinking she didn’t hear me. “Uh, I’m not sure,” she said, knitting her brows. Kristen shook in silent laughter. As I glanced at the sales attendant, realization dawned. “Oh!” I said, my face burning. “You thought I meant, like, intimates …” I trailed off. That was worse. “I mean intimate apparel. Bras. Panties,” I continued haltingly. The associate’s shoulders relaxed as we all burst out laughing at my misinterpreted question.…
